Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

Adam West / January 05,2020

“This mom is lowering the bar and making “self-care” her goal this year!”

Screw your perfect mom blogs,  I’m not going to live an overwhelmed life to feel ok about myself

No one tells you this about Motherhood

I’m too tired and anxious to click another one of those Pinterest articled titled, “17 Ways to Be a Better Mother”. I just can’t. I know I’m not winning any parenting awards, but I know the neighbors aren’t going to call the cops. My kids know I love them and that’s the highest aspiration I can afford right now. Because I am SO burned out right now.

Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

And I’m not perfect, I’m an anxious mother of two whose anxiety manifests as anger. Read more about it in my article: I might look nice in pictures BUT I’m the THAT Mom | How my Anxiety turns into Anger and I take it out on my kids.

So I’m not perfect. And instead of getting burnt out again – this year I’m putting more of my effort into me! It’s all about self-care for me in 2020.

What is Self Care

Self-care is taking good care of your body, your mind, and your spirit. You choose to improve and not damage your physical, mental, or emotional health. This is a journey and not a destination for me.

Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

I’m feeling the effects of putting everyones needs above mine. I feel guilty. I wake up and run through my mental to do list and previous days failures. My kids don’t respect my needs. My clients push me around. It’s time to show everyone – including myself where the standard is for how you treat “Meg”

Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

What ISN’T Self Care

Self care is not something that I will force myself to do. It’s something that’s going to fuel me and not drain me. I like editing video and writing. I would rather do that than get my nails done or take a bath. So setting time aside for myself for things that fuel me will be my self care.

Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

Mind

I will choose to find quiet moments away from the chaos. I will feed my mind good things and not bad things (like that click-bait sad story on FB. I’m gonna scroll right past it!). I will not take on the mental burden or guilt of others this year.

Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

My personal self care is more important than the crumbs on my car floor. I’m going to let crap like that go. It will not bother me like it used to. Like Elsa said, Let it go!

Body

When I’m stressed I ate garbage. Not literal garbage, but sugary salty nonsense that only makes me feel bloated and tired. I will be diligent in taking my multivitamins, eating a vegetable here and there and saying “no thank you” to the overindulgence.

Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

I will also love my body in the mirror. I’m sick of giving myself a full body scan as I look for imperfections. I like it. It’s mine. I will love who is in the mirror. Because this body is a gift from God. I will be choose to be grateful.

Spirit

This year I will choose to look more for God. I will pray instead of panic. I will search for answers instead of believing everything that is told to me. I will love God more and love my neighbor more.

Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

Self-care is not always bubble baths and walking away from negative people. I think it’s when you get to the point in life where you are done ignoring your own needs. I think this is all too common for my fellow mommies.  We are super women who can do anything – but that doesn’t mean we have to do everything! It’s exhausting and you need to take care of yourself so you can better love and serve your loved ones.

Making Self-Care The New Goal for Moms in 2020

 

 

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